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Dealing with Differences in a Friendship

Posted on: February 20th, 2013 By: Ellen Ross | Fresh topics: , , | Fresh groups: Blog Feed, Contributing Authors

It’s a common problem that comes up in a friendship where both people can’t agree on something they discuss, whether it be politics, religion, or a simple moral value. Once an issue like this arises, it’s easy for us to start second guessing if we can continue getting along with our friend and get past the fact that we believe two different things. If you are struggling with how to accept your differences then you need to remember that when it comes to certain issues, nobody is right, but everyone is entitled to their opinion.

There is a reason why most people have several friends that they keep close to them that they can talk about a variety of topics with. Maybe one of your friends doesn’t agree on the casual relationships you take on in your personal life. The easy solution is that you simply need to not discuss that with them, and rather consult a different friend that would understand and support you.

Here are some things to keep in mind when it comes to maintaining friendships despite disagreements.

1. Turn to Different Friends for Different Topics – If you need help making a decision that you know some of your friends may not agree with, make sure you only seek advice from the friends that you know will support you. Someone with a neutral point of view on hot topic issues or someone who doesn’t let politics or religion get in the way of any advice they give would be an ideal friend to turn to. For example, if you have some touchy dating issues, make sure you only seek discuss them with a friend who could relate to or understand your issues so that you don’t have to worry about offending anyone or even feeling judged yourself.

2. Agree to Disagree – Make sure that whenever a topic comes up in conversation that you know you both can’t agree on, you are always respectful of your friend’s view. Saying something like “ I see your point” is enough to let them know you respect their opinion and you accept it. After a touchy subject is brought up and you let your friend know you support their view, try to move on to a neutral subject.

3. It’s Never the End of the World – No matter what issue is at hand, keep in mind that there is a reason you choose to have your friends in your life. There are obviously several things you enjoy doing together or things you have in common. A simple argument or disagreement should NEVER mean that your friendship is over, and if it does, then you need to reevaluate who you let into your life. Does the issue at hand mean that you and your friend can never coexist together? Well, it shouldn’t

At the same time, you always need to remember to be a good friend to others so here are two tips on maintaining your end of the friendship despite disagreements.

1. Be Supportive – Even if you don’t agree with what your friend is doing or saying, it’s important that you respect their opinions. You can always apologize that you can’t offer much guidance on a certain topic and then suggest that they discuss things with one of their other friends that might understand them more.

2. Opposites Attract – Sometimes you need a friend that can disagree with the bad decisions you might be planning on making. At the same time, never be afraid to let your friend know if you think something they are involved with isn’t a good idea for THEIR OWN well-being.

+Ellen Ross writes on her blog Ask Away, an advice and fashion blog, where she posts about life, love, fashion, fitness, and a variety of other topics. She lives in Carlisle, Pennsylvania with her 4 Chihuahuas and works for the Pennsylvania Department of Health. You can read her blog at www.askaway.com.

YAFCA. org is a Social Services Directory provided by Your Are Finally Cared About Inc. This post is one of many provided to inform, educate, and improve the community we live in.

Effectively Dealing with Issues in the Workplace

Posted on: February 13th, 2013 By: Ellen Ross | Fresh topics: , , , , , | Fresh groups: Blog Feed, Contributing Authors, Sponsors

So you finally landed your ideal job, you are making great money, and your job is in no danger of ever being eliminated from the company. Everything is going great, until you start to have personal issues with people in the workplace. Some people can never seem to get over issues with other people and it can ultimately lead to them leaving their place of employment, but that is not the answer. Settling issues in the workplace is actually very easy as long as you keep a few tips in mind.

Tip 1: Staying out of Office Drama
It can take years to build up a trustworthy friendship with a coworker, so remember to always stay neutral. If someone is venting to you about their boss, or another coworker, try not to join in by agreeing with them. This doesn’t mean you have to disagree with them, it simply means that instead of saying “Yes, you’re right, she really is a lousy boss”, you can say something more like “That’s a shame you’re having to deal with these issues but hopefully it starts working out for you soon.”

Tip 2: Stay Neutral
No matter what issues you see going on between the people you work with, always stay neutral and remain peaceful with everyone, even if you aren’t a fan of someone in particular. This makes coming to work everyday much easier for you because you’ll never have to deal with being put in an awkward position. If anyone ever asks you if you are close with another coworker just tell them that you like to stay neutral and you get along with everyone.

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Tip 3: Get Attention the Respectable Way
Your coworker got a promotion but you want to ensure that your boss still sees how deserving you are of one and you feel the need to highlight your successful projects you’ve completed. There is nothing wrong with that as long as you don’t try to brown nose your way to the top. Agreeing with your boss and going out of your way to please him or her is okay if you are being genuine, but to really earn a promotion and the attention you seek you need to make sure it shines through in your work. Meet all your deadlines on time, or even beforehand, and make sure to realistically volunteer to assist your boss with something only when you are entirely capable of doing so. If you are worthy of a promotion, it WILL be recognized and you shouldn’t have to go out of your way to be noticed. Your work will win you the respect you deserve.

Tip 4: Remember that You Never Know Who You Might End Up Working Under Someday
That intern that you were never a fan of could very well end up being your boss someday down the road. Always treat coworkers with kindness and respect even if they don’t do the same back for you. It could mean the difference between getting a job under them someday, or having a good recommendation made about you that works out in your favor when applying for a promotion.

About the Author:
Ellen Ross+ writes on her blog Ask Away, an advice and fashion blog, where she posts about life, love, fashion, fitness, and a variety of other topics. She lives in Carlisle, Pennsylvania with her 4 Chihuahuas and works for the Pennsylvania Department of Health. You can read her blog at www.askawayblog.com.

YAFCA. org is a Social Services Directory provided by Your Are Finally Cared About Inc. This post is one of many provided to inform, educate, and improve the community we live in.

How Fashion Makes Us Feel

Posted on: February 1st, 2013 By: Ellen Ross | Fresh topics: , , , , | Fresh groups: Blog Feed, Contributing Authors, Sponsors

A woman trying to land a high-paying job wears a suit to her interview. A man trying to impress a woman on their first date wears a nice button up shirt and slacks that he’s even ironed out beforehand. So, why do people wear what they wear? One might say that we dress in whatever feels comfortable on us, especially when you are dressing for your job that you’ve had for over 10 years. But a simple change in wardrobe by wearing a suit to a meeting can help change your attitude immensely and get you out of that boring old daily routine.

A suit can make a man feel very powerful in the workplace.

Take the “power suit” for example; a woman could easily wear dress pants and a nice blouse to an interview, but when she wears a suit it makes her feel more professional and powerful. The way you feel about yourself has a major effect on your attitude and can mean the difference between getting a promotion or not. A suit is a common wardrobe piece of a businessman, which shows power and authority, but when a woman puts it on, it can do just a little more. A woman wearing a suit basically motivates her and can tell the world “I can do just as good a job as anyone else because I am powerful and professional.”

Have you ever noticed how a guy will dress on the first date when he’s really trying to impress someone? His usual attire may be a t-shirt and jeans but when he needs to really make a good impression, he has no problem ironing a collared shirt and slacks so that he looks well put together. This makes him feel more confident and it can show her that he is motivated to win her over.

When a woman gets dressed up for a formal dance or celebration she wears a fabulous dress and gets her hair and makeup done so she is flawless. Feeling like a queen, she has a fantastic night out and dances the night away in style. All it took to give her the best night of her life was a good occasion and the perfect ensemble!

There is a huge correlation between what we wear and how we feel. When I add jewelry to an outfit I feel much better about myself than when I wear no jewelry at all. Even if no one notices or compliments me, every time I walk by a mirror I am proud of myself for the ensemble I put together. This may answer the question as to why we always feel the need to buy a new outfit for a special occasion. There’s something about the crisp fresh feeling of a brand new outfit being worn for the first time that makes you extra proud of yourself. Sometimes, after being stuck at home all day, you just need to dress in a nice pair of jeans and shoes when you run errands to give yourself an extra boost of energy. So next time you look in your closet to choose an outfit, remember that when you feel good about how you look, you automatically have a more positive attitude.

About the Author:
Ellen Ross+ write on her blog Ask Away, an advice and fashion blog, where she posts about life, love, fashion, fitness, and a variety of other topics. She lives in Carlisle, Pennsylvania with her 4 Chihuahuas and works for the Pennsylvania Department of Health. You can read her blog at www.askawayblog.com.

YAFCA. org is a Social Services Directory provided by Your Are Finally Cared About Inc. This post is one of many provided to inform, educate, and improve the community we live in.

 

York organization launches with mission of providing support to other non-profits

Posted on: November 14th, 2012 By: John Ellis | Fresh topics: , , , | Fresh groups: Contributing Authors, News Media

By HANNAH SAWYER
The York Daily Record/Sunday News
Updated: 11/14/2012 01:40:13 AM EST

 

Mark Boyd sat down at a table at the annual autumn memorial luncheon for the Jedediah Thomas Smith Foundation, a local nonprofit, to talk and eat. He wore a white T-shirt with the letters “YAFCA” stamped across the front.
The letters stood for a new organization called You Are Finally Cared About for which Boyd is president of marketing. Boyd didn’t know Kristin Buckley, the founder of The Jedediah Thomas Smith Foundation, well. He came simply because he wanted to deliver a message of support for her and her organization, which seeks to raise awareness and funds for childhood cancer research.
Buckley’s son, Jed, died in 2010 at the age of 12 after a prolonged battle with acute lymphoblastic leukemia. After Jed’s death, Buckley founded The Jedediah Thomas Smith Foundation in honor of Jed’s memory. The organization’s mission is to raise funds and awareness of childhood cancer research.
But Boyd also was there because John Ellis, the president and CEO of You Are Finally Cared About, couldn’t be. Ellis is currently serving in the US Air Force and stationed in Spangdahlem, Germany.
In Germany, Ellis spends his days working full-time as a senior airman structural apprentice, performing routine facility maintenance and constructing Air Force buildings. His nights are spent working to grow his organization from across the Atlantic and to secure its non-profit status.
Attending Buckley’s fundraiser was one way for Boyd to help Ellis get the word out to the local non-profit and charitable community about the new resource. You Are Finally Cared About is unique in the non-profit world, Ellis said. Its purpose is to support other non-profits and charities by acting as an information hub for donors, customers and what Ellis calls the “in-betweeners,” or those who are both donor and customer.
The organization will operate primarily online. Its website, www.yafca.org, launched Nov. 6.
If he can explain and simplify the accreditation process for other non-profits by providing links to pertinent forms, a networking message board for users, and also advertise upcoming events, Ellis said, he can help encourage growth in the York non-profit and charity community.
“We’re focused on making sure community outreach doesn’t become so complicated that it doesn’t happen,” Ellis said.
Ellis believes individualized outreach through social media will separate his efforts from the more traditional methods, such as phone drives and mailing campaigns, that other larger organizations often use.
“We’re not just high-tech,” Ellis said. “We’re high-touch.”
“Donate money, that’s one thing,” Boyd said. “But donate time, that’s another.”
Buckley’s fundraiser generated more than $10,000 for The Jedediah Thomas Smith Foundation. She plans to put a portion of the proceeds toward supporting The Four Diamonds Fund and Penn State’s THON.
The support of Boyd, Ellis and the You Are Finally Cared About organization made a difference that day for Buckley.
“Having them at our fundraiser and knowing they feel our cause is worthwhile is a wonderful feeling,” she said. “It is imperative that small organizations like ours have help, support and connections. I think YAFCA is filling a much needed void.”
Ellis admitted facilitating the level of community engagement he envisions is no small task but said his work with the Air Force has taught him the determination he needed to tackle tough situations and dream big.
“If we can’t keep the buildings standing, then the planes can’t fly. I try to remind myself that I’m solving problems at work every day as I’m working to fix problems at home.”